Using Greed and Fear While Foreign Exchange Trading

This week a woman contacted me in great distress about her relationship with her second husband. When I asked her to sum up her complaint about her husband in one sentence, she chose: "He is controlling". She backed this statement up with all kinds of information to make sure that she was completely true.

What I think about when a girl says that her spouse is "controlling" is that she believes she is controllable. This fascinates me. Anytime somebody believes that a person is doing anything to them, they are getting rid of their power. When our heads believe that way about anyone other than ourselves, we get to be the one who is attacked by their actions, and we do not have to take responsibility for our own.

In this situation, she was believing that it was his fault that she does not sing anymore. He wanted her to stop singing in bars, which was something she loved before they got married. She then stopped singing in bars which then ended her singing for good. She then became resentful that she stopped living her love. She chose to end her singing because he didnt like when she sang in bars, and yet she noticed that he kept doing what he wanted even if it upset her.

Why is this scenario the case for lots of ladies? Because women hold beliefs around what they need to do in order to keep their men happy and keep them around. Womens actions revolve around those thoughts and then they are not happy while they make their man happy. Resentment and anger set in and females then BLAME the gentlemen, as if they had something to do with it! (Men, please examine to see if it is the same beliefs you have about women!).

In order to uncover her thoughts and free her from their horrible outcomes, we worked together on a number of levels: To start, we looked at her past relationships with men in general and some thoughts she had towards men that would make her think they are controlling. Next, we looked at her pattern of victimization and how it served her in the past and how it hampered her relationship in the present. Then, we looked at the way her life would be if she didnt call men controlling. Finally, we gently looked at how she showed up in the exact ways she blamed about her spouse and men in general. As she noticed how controlling she was in the way she thought about how she thought he should do things to please her, the laughing began. Once we get what we are really doing, it is difficult not to giggle!

As soon as she took responsibility for her actions against the relationship we reached the finish line. When she focused on all of her husbands faults, the situation was without hope and she was ready to get out of the relationship while she could and move on. As soon as she noticed how it was her that was getting rid of him because of her resentment, she had the priviledge to look at a variety of different options available to her, should she choose to be different. She changed from without hope and power, to full of hope and power.

What an exciting opportunity to be with someone when they have the chance to dig deep inside themselves and come up with so many kinds of positive possibilities!

JARED PASSEY has worked with hundreds of forex traders around the globe, has created several successful high probability trading strategies, trades his own portfolio AND manages a forex fund. Learn forex trading at Jared's free online forex trading seminars that are open to anyone interested.